One of your responsibilities as a family caregiver may involve keeping other family members up to date on how your senior is doing. For some families, these conversations can quickly devolve because the relationships between family members get in the way. Working on ways to make these conversations more productive can serve you and your senior family member well.
Outline the Goals of the Conversations.
If you already have a contentious relationship with the family members in question, you might want to make sure that you set up some specific goals for your conversations. Knowing that this particular conversation is about setting up elderly care services can keep you on target, for instance. That way you can focus. When or if the conversation goes off target, you can regroup and get back to the agreed upon goals.
Being Polite Goes a Long Way.
You can share how you’re feeling and your opinions politely, even with a difficult family member. Making your opinion known in a calm, firm manner is important because it sets the tone for the conversation. If you raise your voice or respond out of anger, you may inadvertently escalate the situation. Quite often the calmer you can stay, the more you can keep the conversation on target and productive.
Your Experience as a Caregiver Matters.
Your other family members may feel as if they need to have more of a say in your elderly family member’s care and in what happens with her on a daily basis. They may have a point, but your experience as her caregiver matters, too. You know what it’s been like for her up to this point and your observations and experiences are valid.
Avoid Games and Drama.
If you let yourself get drawn into games and drama with your family members, you’re diverted from your true purpose as her family caregiver. Some of these games and periods of drama may be situations you’ve played out multiple times with these same family members. If you don’t break the cycle, though, you’re not going to get anywhere with these conversations. Don’t let yourself get drawn into these nonproductive forms of passive aggressive behavior.
When you’re all working together to help your elderly family member to live the best life that she can live, it might be necessary to put aside personal issues. Keeping your goals in mind and remembering the big picture can help a lot toward that end.
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