Affirmations are positive statements that are short and, when you repeat them to yourself frequently, can help you to change your perspective on situations. As a caregiver, affirmations can help you to feel less overwhelmed and to shift your self-talk from negative to positive.
The Best I Can Do Is the Best I Can Do
One aspect that caregivers often struggle with is the idea of not being a good enough caregiver. The reality is that you’re doing the best that you can with the resources and the tools at your disposal currently. Sure, you can always add more tools to your toolbox and as Maya Angelou said, When you know better, you can do better. Until such time, the best that you can do is the best that you can do.
Every Day Is Different and Perfect as it Is
A close cousin to the above mantra is one that deals with perfection. It’s not unusual at all for caregivers to not only want to be better at caring for the people they love but to achieve perfection. That’s why everything can feel so personal when it doesn’t go 100 percent the right way every single time. Every day can’t be perfect, but it’s the most perfect version of that day as it can be. There’s always tomorrow.
Good Enough Is Good Enough
Another mantra you might want to try on for size is that good enough is good enough. Is the dishwasher loaded perfectly? Maybe not. But if someone handled that task for you and you were able to focus on other things, then that’s great. It’s important that you know what to hang onto and what to let go of on your caregiving journey. You’ll cause yourself undue stress if you don’t.
I Don’t Have to Control Everything
There’s a lot that you want to manage for your senior and probably an awful lot that you would change or otherwise control for her. But very little of life is truly under your control. Most of the time you’re going to have to do the best that you can and deal with the situation as it lands. When you try to control everything, you’re going to find yourself much more frustrated when situations don’t respond the way that you want them to respond.
Positive statements and affirmations can be incredibly helpful to you as a caregiver. They can help you to reframe some of the things that you say to yourself and allow you to be more loving to and gentler with yourself.