As a caregiver, you’re going to feel so many different emotions. Some of the feelings you experience are going to strike you as incorrect or even wrong. But they aren’t.
Resentment or Anger
There’s a lot that caregivers give up in order to take care of the people that they love. You might find over time that you start to feel resentful or angry about the things you’ve had to set to the side. It’s a delicate balance being a caregiver. One of the best ways for you to get over resentment and anger is to make sure that you’re paying attention to what you need and you’re doing what you can to meet your own needs.
Worry and Fear
Your senior’s health and her future can cause you to experience a great many worries and even fear. There’s a lot that can go wrong and you might not feel as if you’re prepared to do what needs to be done. You can get around this feeling by educating yourself as much as possible about what is coming down the path for your senior. You might also want to try to put as many solutions in place as possible.
At some point, you’re not going to be a caregiver any longer. That’s most likely to happen because your senior has passed away and if her health is bad, you know that can happen at any time. You can feel grief now in anticipation of that time, but you can also feel grief for other reasons. Your senior may have lost a lot to her health and as her caregiver, you’ve lost a good bit, too. It’s okay to grieve those losses so that you can keep moving forward.
It’s also possible that you’re feeling guilt. No matter how much you do, it might feel as if that’s never enough. The reality is that there is an awful lot that you’re doing for your senior, especially in terms of protecting her safety and her happiness. Be objective with yourself about what you can do and what you have done. You can only stretch yourself and your resources so far.
All of these feelings are natural and normal, but they might feel as if they’re wrong for you to have. What they are is an indication that you might need to shift your perspective or put a different solution in place.
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Dorothy’s core expertise includes an extensive background of more than 38 years, focusing on Home Care, Senior Care and operating a successful in-home care agency.
In her spare time she enjoys her 5 grandchildren, gardening, skiing and competition 8-Ball.
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