Impatience is a battle that everyone wages at some point. But as a caregiver, being impatient can make everything much more difficult than it has to be. Try some of these suggestions if you’re experiencing shorter patience than usual lately and see whether they adjust your fuse a bit.
Get to the Root Cause
When you understand why your fuse is so short, you can do a lot more about that situation. There are so many reasons that could be contributing. If you and your senior have a difficult relationship, for instance, that can be a big problem. If you’re dealing with a lot of stress from a variety of sources, your patience can take a real beating.
Take Responsibility When You Snap
You’re not going to respond perfectly every time your patience gets tested. Sometimes you’re going to snap and respond in a way that you aren’t proud of for a variety of reasons. It’s important that when that happens you take responsibility for that and make amends. You don’t have to keep beating yourself up, but it is important that you take ownership of your actions and responses.
Pay Attention to What Helps
When you start noticing that you’ve got a problem, you can also start noticing what helps you to resolve that problem. Figure out what techniques and tricks are most helpful to you either when your patience is thin or before you even get to that point. Make a list and keep it handy so that you can refer to it often. You’re going to want to lean on these tools so that you can start to get a better handle on how you respond to stress overall.
Make Sure You’re Taking Breaks
The biggest solution you can put into place is to actually start taking breaks from caregiving. Too often caregivers neglect taking time away and over time they find that they start to experience more stress, frustration, and times when their patience is way too thin. If that’s the case for you, bring elder care providers in to stay with your senior and spend some time taking care of yourself.
Being a caregiver means being there for your senior, but it doesn’t mean that you have to punish yourself to the point that you find yourself taking your stress out on other people. Taking better care of yourself allows you to take better care of others.